When I was a younger Christian, I am told by my mentor to have an accountability partner. And yes, I have an accountability partner, but I don’t really appreciate the person that much. It is… More
Every believer wants to grow in their relationship with God but are not willing to labor for more. They want to grow in wisdom and knowledge and skills, but are not willing to be used by God. They want growth but are not willing to step out of their comfort zones. They just can’t find time.
I am not writing this just because my husband and I are working in the ministry nor we achieved perfection in these things. We are still a work in progress and this blog is to remind every believer (including us) of the things we sometimes take for granted.
Do not just find time, but make time for Quiet Time
I heard every excuse that I am busy and tired and so on. Well, all of us are busy and all of us gets tired. We might have a different job and task during the day, but that’s the reality that all of us gets busy and tired for some reasons. Do not just find time but Make time for it. Even Jesus, the son of the creator takes time to pray to His heavenly father, what difference do we have to make such excuses. How busy are we for us to say that we just can’t make time to read our bible and pray?
Matthew 26:36 , Then Jesus went with them to a place called Gethsemane, and he said to his disciples, “Sit here, while I go over there and pray.
Involve yourself in a ministry work.
God doesn’t need our help in the ministry. God alone with all His might and power can do it by Himself. Yet God uses people to work in the ministry, God wants to involve everyone of us. Ministry work is for our own growth, the benefit is for us, the advantage is for us. Everything that God created is for our own good and yet we are still so busy. Jesus was doing ministry works in His time and we still say we can’t make time?
Luke 4:15, And he taught in their synagogues, being glorified by all. (There are verses in the bible that will tell us that Jesus was involve in ministry works)
Reach out to people.
Reaching out to the lost is the standing order of Jesus , not just for full time workers but to everyone who believes in Him. Growth happens when we learn to reach out to people. When we introduce Jesus to them, when we share what happened thousands of years ago, what happened on the cross. We will reach out to people not because we are obliged to do it. But because we are grateful enough for all the things He has done for us and for the things that God will about to do in our life. Even Jesus took time to reach out to people and yet we still say we can’t make time?
Matthew 28:19, Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit,
I rank Quiet Time as no. 1 because everything will boil down to how much we spend time with God. If our Quiet Time is fruitful, people can see it and it will bear fruit.
Thank you Lord because even if we miss out on these things You remain gracious and faithful and merciful. It is my prayer that you will touch every person’s heart who will read this one. In Jesus Name , Amen.
God knows how much I want to visit Tagaytay City. Last January 30 and 31, 2016 we did go to Tagaytay together with the classmates of Kin for their exposure. For some people they called it co-incidence but for me, I called it answered prayer. This is another check on my prayer faith goals. Here are some few pictures of the trip.
The super women in Victory Carmona. Victory Carmona was planted last November 1, 2015. Beside me is ate Lay, then Ate Mai then Ate Joy. Ate Joy is the wife of the Pastor in Carmona.
More than just the place, what makes the trip beautiful and fruitful is the people I am with and the people I met during the trip. We all know that God really provides but it is a different thing when you are confronted by His provision. It is a different thing when you see it in the lives of other people. When we visited Victory Tagaytay and Victory Carmona, God’s provision is very evident. The location of the church is very strategic, facilities were excellent, they were able to invite locals from the city and more. They shared how the church started and everything they went through and how God provides for them miraculously. They shared how God clearly speaks to them, how God confirm their calling. They shared different strategies on how they reach out their city, how they engage the people.
It was not a luxurious trip, but who cares, I am more than blessed hearing their testimonies.
Early this year Kin and I went home to our hometown in Midsalip, Zamboanga del Sur. It was a very fruitful five day vacation.
One night my mom and I were just talking and here is our conversation:
Mom: You know what, I really hoped to have a child who is a registered nurse since I am the only one who don’t have a child in the medical field. And I also hoped to have child who is a pastor.
Me: Well, sorry mom, I am a management graduate and Edson (my brother) is a sea farer. None of us will become a nurse or a pastor.
Mom: I already have one, Kin ( my husband), he is both a registered nurse and soon to become a pastor.
Before I met Kin, my mom is already hoping for this. Wow Lord thank you for answering the prayer of my mom. Thank you for honoring her faith. For her, it was just a wishful thinking but you still grant it.
Going out of town is always and, the initial plan for our first wedding anniversary. But we weren’t able to do so; however God allowed me to see his faithfulness in a new lens. So here are some pictures of what I did for our first year together.
I thank God for the past twelve months of our married life. Our married life is not perfect; we have our own ups and downs, adjustments and so many on. But it doesn’t mean God is not present during those times.
For the past 12 months He allowed me to understand what it really means to say “Glory is for God alone” and “He is faithful”. These lessons in life always brought me to tears. There are only two reasons why I cried to God. First, I do not understand why things happen that way but I know I had to obey God’s leading and trust Him instead. Second, now that I understand why it happened and I couldn’t thank God enough that He reveals those things to me. It is just overwhelming.
It doesn’t mean that God didn’t answer my heart’s desire He is not faithful at all. God is just teaching me to level up the way I think of His faithfulness.
God made me realize that I don’t need to go somewhere else to experience His faithfulness. I am experiencing His faithfulness everyday through the love of Kin for me. God’s love for me must be so huge and He cannot contain it anymore. That is why God gave me Kin to all the more express His love for me.
Stay blessed 🙂
A while ago, while I am having quiet time, God reminded me of the verse during our wedding day. And I cannot thank God enough for His faithfulness.
It was nearing the end of December 2013 when a friend of mine from the church texted me this verse from Psalm 45: 10-17 . She told me that I crossed her mind upon reading this verse. After a week or two Kinneth proposed to me in Gabby’s Bistro. And then I remember the verse that was shared to me by my friend. I didn’t share to anybody what kind of engagement proposal I would like to have. I only shared it to God haha because I know He is the only one who can best keep my secrets. To my surprise 80% of what I imagined happened on that afternoon.
Even before I already want to become a princess, little did I know that I am really a princess for my heavenly father is a king. Much more when He called me royal daughter. And now I am married to a prince. I really want a royal colorful wedding. Months before the wedding I received a prophecy that my wedding will be like a Barbie wedding, wedding gown have crystals and all and it did happen. My mom bought me this Barbie when I was a kid and to my surprise our gown looks the same and even our hair during the wedding day. Even the bouquet, were almost the same. I didn’t show this Barbie to our wedding coordinator and I told him the design is up to you, I just want it be like a ball gown.
Psalms 45:10-17 (NLT)
Listen to me, O royal daughter; take to heart what I say.
Forget your people and your family far away.
11 For your royal husband delights in your beauty;
honor him, for he is your lord.
12 The princess of Tyre[a] will shower you with gifts.
The wealthy will beg your favor.
13 The bride, a princess, looks glorious
in her golden gown.
14 In her beautiful robes, she is led to the king,
accompanied by her bridesmaids.
15 What a joyful and enthusiastic procession
as they enter the king’s palace!
16 Your sons will become kings like their father.
You will make them rulers over many lands.
17 I will bring honor to your name in every generation.
Therefore, the nations will praise you forever and ever.
I am forever grateful for 10.23.14 🙂
Yesterday afternoon I silently prayed to God that I want a cake with a candle to blow. Though not necessarily a birthday cake, any cake will do. Few tears were running on my cheek while praying for it. My husband noticed it and asks me why I was crying and of course I just say I am okay, it is just happy tears.
That night someone came and brought a cake, when I saw the cake I cannot help but cried. I cried because I was praying for a cake. She gave me a cake because for her that was the most convenient thing to buy as a gift. Not knowing that I silently prayed for it that afternoon. And not just cake but someone brought me perfume and grapefruit milk lotion, the scent it so good, really good.
After thirty minutes a group of people came and they brought me to tears again, because they brought me a cake. All the more I am amazed by God. They were wearing party hats and it is like children’s party. Before my birthday, I and my husband were thinking where to take them for my birthday but I am just surprised to see them outside of our house. They brought some pizzas and drinks. And my husband knows about the surprise.
Afterwards a good friend of mine came with another cake and totally I am 101% amazed by the goodness of God in my life.
My birthday ended with three cakes from different stores and with different flavors and each cake has its own candle to blow. I was able to blow each cake with the candles. I am just blown away by the goodness of God. Yes it is just a cake but for me it is not just a cake. It is about the goodness and the faithfulness of God. It is about God as a heavenly father to me. Now that I am married all the more I see the fatherly heart of God.
God’s provision doesn’t necessarily to be grandeurs though God is a grandeurs God. Sometimes it comes in a most simple way yet so awesome. I learned that God’s provision doesn’t always to be in a form of money. It could be;
- Good friends with good relationship
- Shared lives
Thank you even for some people who stayed late with us waiting for August 12 and even took the time to share their thoughts about me. This is all my first time experience.
Stay blessed 🙂
Love I know that this marriage doesn’t give us assurance that we will fight no more, but instead I think we will be having more fights.
We may fight each other, but we will fight for each other and I will be your warrior princess.
These are some of the few lines in my vow during our wedding day and I guess it is true. It is not that we fight everyday but there were really passionate discussions between us. We were married for nine months already and I thank God that we are surrounded with people who were married for more than 10 years . Of course it is always a blessing to be married to a godly man but it doesn’t assure us that everything will go smoothly. We are still living in a sinful world which means we need to deal with the imperfections of our spouse till our last breath. It is quite challenging but all the more I see the hands of God at work in us. I didn’t come from a happy family; both my parents are not in good terms since I was three years old up to now. (It’s okay, they don’t actually read my blog, they just click like 🙂 ) But this will not define my married life.
Our married life is worth fighting for, it is worth the fight. Both the husband and the wife should commit to fight for their marriage. There must be this sense of security and loyalty that no matter what happens our spouse will fight for us. Our enemy is not our spouse, Satan is our enemy. We need to fight the battle together. We will fight for our married life.
Again our spouse is not perfect. No one is perfect in a marriage but our marriage is always worth fighting for because Jesus won the battle already. It is also my prayer that I will see my husband the way God sees him. We will always come to a point of hurting each other through our words and actions but true love covers them all. Let us be reminded how God defines love and not how society defines it.
The third party that is allowed in our married life is God. Actually, we don’t consider God as third party; He is the first and top most priority. Two is better than one, with God at the center makes it more even better.
Humility is very important. And I admit that I am having hard times with this one but the grace of God is always available for us, it enables us to control our temper and say NO to what is not pleasing in His eyes. What is not pleasing in God’s eyes will eventually hurt our spouse as well.
Stay Blessed 🙂
Marriage is hard work but everything will come easy if there is LOVE and RESPECT and God in the center of it. Last night we had this dinner with some couples from church. And while we were sharing some things, unintentionally some funny and serious arguments were discussed. While listening to them all the more I realize that we need to protect our marriages. We need to work hard for it. Here are some things that crossed my mind last night.
We need to pray for each other. Not just pray for the things that we believe for as a couple but we need to pray for each other’s spiritual growth and maturity as well. Let us pray that our spouse will love God more than they love us. If they love God more than they love us we can be assured that their love for us will never die because their source is eternal.
Our spouse is not perfect, not even close to one that is why all the more we need to speak life to them. We need to speak encouraging words to them and uplift them. Appreciate them and thank them. If we need to rebuke them, we must do it with love. Remember, they are not our enemy, they are our partners.
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue,
and those who love it will eat its fruits.”
This is what I am talking about. Teammates help each other, the same thing for married couple. Husbands and wives are partners, we are not to compete with each other, but instead we should complement each other. If there are conflicts and arguments, we need to be reminded that they are not our enemy. We are to fight and resolve the issue together. We have the same family names now which means we are one.
“What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate”
This verse brings so much comfort for every married couple. Before we came to think about marriage, it is already in God’s mind. God carefully thought of our partners and God deserves gratitude from us for our married life and lifetime partners.
Since the beginning of our marriage, there is one thing I cannot stand about my husband. It is the way he responds to me, though not all the time but every time he does it my response is also tested. Most of the time my husband answers me with a raising voice or a loud voice, and I just don’t really like it very much. It is really very unloving for me though it is not his intention to do it I can’t help but get mad at him. Most of our arguments started with the way we respond to each other. It’s either he feels disrespected or I feel unloved.
Along the way I realize some very important truth with the way we respond to each other:
The way we respond is our responsibility. Our response should be under the lordship of Jesus Christ. Our response to our spouse is not dependent on how they treat us. Though at times it is really annoying but we need to understand as well that our spouse is not perfect. They are a work in progress. Our response should be under the Lordship of Jesus Christ. (Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit to your husband, as to the Lord.)
This line was taken from the book Love and Respect.
Our greatest test of character is our spouse. We live in a fallen world, yet we are charged to respond in a way that honors God. It has nothing to do with them alone. It has something to do with our relationship with the Lord. We cannot just blame our partner and not look into our self. The line it takes two to tango doesn’t apply here. The more we grow in Christ, the more we learn to deal and be patient with our spouse.
When I say pray, do not pray a selfish prayer like; Lord please change the heart of my spouse ( though this is a good prayer ). But what I am trying to say is, let us pray that God would guide us in responding to our spouse. Sometimes we keep on praying to change the heart and character of our spouse and we forgot to pray for our self. Our spouse is not the one who is at fault here, we have a responsibility. Let us pray that God will grant us fresh amount of grace and that God will lead us into His truth in responding to our spouse.
Every day I pray this kind of prayer. We do not come into a married life hoping to change each other . We cannot change our partner, only God can. But what we can do is co-labor with God in molding our spouse the way God wants them to be.
Stay blessed 🙂
I resigned from work fifteen days before the wedding day which means I am not part any more of any corporate activities such as summer outing or Christmas Party and more. Early summer I was thinking like “ Lord, I want to join summer outing or at least go to the beach or pool or something that is free “. Only summer outings from company can do that, but how can I attend to it, I am not even part of a company. 🙂
Days passed and this good friend of mine texted me like this “ Are you free tomorrow? Let’s join a family fun day in Jollibee (same as summer outing). When I read the message I know this is for free, I know it for sure. Like I don’t have to pay anything, just show up and enjoy without spending a single penny for it. It took me three minutes to reply because I was already thinking like what to wear and what to bring. I was really really really excited and do all the good I can so that I can borrow rash guard from another good friend (Reyna Barredo).
We went to Bravo Golf Course Resort and Spa in Sibulan 🙂
Here are some of the pictures
These two things I realize ;
1. God is really faithful and full of surprises. Joining a summer outing for free is just a wishful thinking and I don’t really want it so bad. But God grants it anyways. If God is able to provide the not so important wants then how much more our needs. God doesn’t just provide the needs he provides leisure and fun.
2. Spending time with your family is very important. I only come to realize this now that I am married. I am grateful that then even the busiest bees comes to know this. There is balance when you know your family got your back when everything else turns away. Here is a link about the importance of family ( http://www.gotquestions.org/Bible-family.html)
Stay blessed 🙂